Bad Wife/Good Wife

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by Carol Kicinski on July 20, 2009

Living a gluten free lifestyle is infinitely easier when you have a support system in place.

This is my he-man. My hubby. My biggest supporter, my truest friend and my champion.

After 33 years of marriage I still love him to distraction. He can literally take my breathe away just by kissing my check.

He is a strong, courageous, loyal person. He is also considerate, funny and never EVER boring.

Once when I had dry lips he went out and bought me 27 different types of lip treatments – Chapstick, Burt’s, Blistex, Badger Balm, you name it. He didn’t know if I liked gels or sticks, medicated or not, flavored or original and if flavored which one. He didn’t know which ones would be gluten free. So he bought them all. I think that shows that even strapling, strong he-men can be sweet.

He is much too good for me.

Here’s just some idea of why.

Five reasons why I am a BAD wife:

1. I lost his beloved parrot. I hated this bird and the feeling was mutual. She screeched like the Second Coming every time I came near her or was on the phone, she constantly tried to eat my fingernails, she bullied the cat and the dog and hated everyone except my husband who she snuggled and cooed with. You could practically see those little Disney hearts circling her head every time she saw him. Maybe I was jealous because he loved her too. Who knows? Anyway, I lost her. I didn’t mean to; it was an accident. She flew out the front door when I opened it but I did do a little happy dance when it was clear she was never coming back.

2. One night my husband came home late after a series of meetings. He had told me he would eat dinner and not to worry about making anything for him to. However when he arrived home, he was starving and asked me to make him something. I looked through my fridge and all I could find was the food I make for the dog. Now I may be a terrible wife but I am very good to my dog. I make him all his food. I take fresh raw turkey, grind it up, mix it with cooked organic brown rice and fresh veggies and add in a good splash of extra virgin olive oil. So I took the dog’s food, added some seasoning and chopped onion, formed it into a patty and cooked him up a tastey turkey burger. Good thing he is way too busy to read my blog much and probably won’t find out I gave him dog food for dinner!

3. Once when his foot was all seized up and cramping and he was practically writhing in pain I wouldn’t rub his foot until I went into the kitchen and found my extra strength-heavy duty-able to pick up nuclear waste-rubber gloves. In my own defense his feet were all dried out and scaly at the time but I just don’t think that rubbing your man’s poor broken foot with rubber gloves exactly screams wifely devotion.

4. I’m a tad OCD about table settings. The night before our Christmas Eve party one year I had a candle emergency. After scouring 10 stores locally I still was unable to find the exact candles I needed for the dining room table. Meanwhile my husband had spent two harrowing days trying to get home from California. After missing one plane, getting food poisoning, getting on another plane a day later only to have it make an emergency landing because the woman whose life my husband had just saved had to be taken to a hospital thus missing his connecting flight and being stranded in Miami for hours, he needed to be picked up at exactly the same time as I was to be attending another Christmas party. Not only did I not pick him up at the airport (Jeez, it’s only a $30.00 cab ride for Pete’s sake) but since he was in Tampa anyway I sent him in search of the right candles. After three stores he was triumphant. I came home from my Christmas Party as my poor, belabored husband was dragging his weary body through the back door, barely able to stand but clutching the proper candles.

5. I wrecked his prized Classic 1976 Red Stingray Corvette. He loved that car! He babied that car. He does not allow the car to be driven when it rains. This is a man who can’t put his socks in the dirty clothes hamper but just let one speck of dust get on his beautiful car and watch out! It is cleaned off toot-sweet and perfectly to boot. Well, one night I was coming home after the theatre pretty late at night (and just for the record absolutely no alcohol of any kind was involved what-so-ever!) driving his car at a very moderate speed (honest!) and I hit a small patch of water. Corvettes are made of fiberglass so they are very lightweight and the car started to hydroplane. Before I could right it the front of the car smashed into a light pole which shattered the front end and spun the car around and the back of it hit a fire hydrant. In case you are wondering, they really do spew out all that water just like in the movies. Anyway his precious Corvette was in about a million pieces (did I mention that Corvettes are made of fiberglass? Well fiberglass shatters – trust me I know) all over the street, side walk and neighboring yards for as far as the eye could see. Plus I am pretty sure the inside was flooded by all that fire hydrant water. Don’t worry, I was unhurt, the car was eventually put back together and we are the proud owners of a new fire hydrant in San Jose California. (I still think that for all the money the city charged us they could have put a nice little elegantly engraved name plaque on it.)

Now would be the time to list all the reasons why I am a good wife. My hubby would say they are legion but that says more about him than me.

Really the only thing that makes me a good wife is I am all in! Sink, tread water or gold medal winning swim to the finish line – I’ll be there. Richer, poorer, sickness, health, dry scaly feet and all. I love him and no matter what – I AM ALL IN!

That and I put his damn socks in the hamper every single bloody day without complaining (much).

xo honey!

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Steph July 20, 2009 at 10:26 pm

my husband is my anchor in life. he is also very much supportive of my dietary-needs lifestyle. i'm going to post an appreciation for him on my blog, as i have been thinking lately about how lucky i am to have him. thanks for the inspiration :)
sounds like you've got a great man as well. where would we be without them?

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Peter G July 21, 2009 at 4:10 am

Um…can I admit that i had a big chuckle at this? It's lovely how you express your love for him but those incidents had me in hysterics! The parrot, the candles, the dog's dinner, the feet and the corvette…it's like a soap opera! I love it!

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Ninette July 21, 2009 at 5:35 am

How sweet and what a great husband. My husband's and my 16th anniversary is this Friday, and we've been together 24 years total. I feel the same way about my husband. It's nice to see that marriages can stay strong over the years. Btw, your husband is a saint, given your very funny stories. And I'm sure you are too.

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Debbie July 21, 2009 at 8:04 am

I regret not flying out to D.C. to see my husband awarded a medal while being in the military (I cringe just writing this). I was up to my ears getting ready for back-to-school night and didn't know what to do with the dog. Seems so lame now… Anyway, I am there till the finish line for him, too. Thanks for the post -very real touch of life.
Debbie

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Mrs. Ed July 21, 2009 at 10:17 am

I knew a parrot like that. Anyways…what an adorable blog. But I've got to ask…33 years of marriage–did you get married when you were 10?

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Amy Green (Simply Sugar and Gluten-Free) July 21, 2009 at 9:17 pm

My husband loves me like that, too. He is the most generous, kind, caring man. He is my constant supporter and believes in all of dreams, always helping me achieve anything I want. Most importantly, he's my best friend.

Love the new site!!

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Kristen July 22, 2009 at 12:01 am

AWESOME! I love that you can be so honest. You must be one great wife to one GREAT man :)

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H.Peter July 23, 2009 at 6:38 am

You are a great wife….your husband is a greater husband!

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gfe--gluten free easily July 31, 2009 at 5:15 am

What a beautiful post, Carol! It's a shame you can't show this post to your husband (due to its "secrets"), because he would really treasure it. I'm fortunate to have a hubby who is giving and loving like that, too. For example, he gave me not one, but three foot rubs last night … and he didn't put on any rubber gloves. LOL One of his friends just told him that he was "the man" because he was the only guy he knew who could come back from an 11-day motorcycle ride with his wife and have had a great time. ;-)

Shirley

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Heidi May 11, 2010 at 3:18 pm

Ahhhh Carol, I always knew you and Thom were an awesome couple. I thank god all the time for the both of you setting such a good role model for me growing up in your home. Eric and I are going on 18 yrs married this year. Sending you my love. Heidi

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